“It always struck me in years after how bizarre it was, how two people could look at one another with such tenderness and complete love, and how quickly that could dissolve into nothing but bitterness.”—Hannah Harrington, Saving June (via larmoyante)
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”—Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience (via kushandwizdom)
1) A boy telling you you’re pretty won’t make you see the beauty in the fullness of your cheeks, in redness of your lips at 2 in the morning when tequila is making the bar bathroom spin. He can’t take away the ugliness that you see in yourself, you have to do that.
2) You have to be ready to hear someone say they love you. You have to be ready, and you have to be willing, and you have to listen. Because sometimes, they won’t say those three words, they’ll put a blanket over you while you’re watching a movie, they’ll kiss your cheek when they think you’re asleep, they’ll smile when they see you first thing in the morning. But you, you have to be willing to see it, feel it, let it in. Letting someone love you takes practice.
3) Don’t make compromises you can’t live with. Compromise is a different version of what you want, not a whole other Universe.
4) Learn to say no. No - to a movie you don’t want to watch; no - to sex you don’t want to have, no- to a relationship that’s driving you mad. Say no - to things that hurt you, to people that extinguish your fire, to jobs you hate and places that are desolate. There are bad things that we can’t control, bad things that happen and we are sucked into and have to feel with every fibre of our being, but the rest - learn to distance yourself, learn to say no.
5) Don’t expect people to walk through fire for you - not your parents, not your friends, not the person you’re in love with. Love doesn’t mean sacrifice, love shouldn’t mean sacrifice. Don’t expect someone to give away pieces of them, so they could fit you better. And don’t feel hurt when they refuse to - it’s self-preservation. Instead - learn from them. Do it as well.
6) Don’t tether yourself to people. Learn to make connections, to love, with both your feet steady on the ground. Learn to let people pass through your life; like a summer breeze, not a storm that’s just been unleashed.
7) Learn the difference between growth and growing up before it’s too late. Rooftops and water fights and ice cream for breakfast can be a part of your life at 10, 25, or 35. But by the time you’re 35 you need to learn to say enough, to be able to walk away, you need to be able to love yourself. Love yourself the way you loved yourself at 10, before the world had a chance to fill your head with ugliness.
“I started promising myself to
never stay anywhere I’m not
very much wanted. I have too
many scars to be breaking
my bones to fit into places
that weren’t made to fit me.”—anne, maybe I always feel out of place because I’m always placing myself where I don’t belong. (via splitterherzen)
“Everything tells me that I am about to make a wrong decision, but making mistakes is just part of life. What does the world want of me? Does it want me to take no risks, to go back to where I came from because I didn’t have the courage to say “yes” to life?”—Paulo Coelho, Eleven Minutes (via kushandwizdom)
“When men are born into this world
by the age of six they will hit their first woman -
you will laugh and call it ‘affection’.
By the age 13, he will come home
with eyes swollen with water and a putty heart,
He will begin to call her all kinds of ugly
names - words he learned from television,
from his community, from you - all with blood on them.
You will laugh and say ‘there are more fish in the sea, son’
and again, he will forget about his own hands.
By 19, he will have a graveyard in his mouth
and a burning city of a woman. One day,
she will look into the mirror and she will
see a corpse. In panic, she will begin
clawing her way out of his cemetery.
And he will remember his hands.
When the police arrives,
his fists will look like a demolition
and his mouth - the dead sea. You will wonder what
went wrong. From where could he have possible learned
this type of behavior? Then he will look at you
with the same eyes he did at six years old
and he will say ‘I loved her’”—Hands, [agd] (via agapebydesign)